Is it me?
I’m wondering about sports obsessions, particularly lacrosse, in my town. My son plays soccer, swims on the summer swim team, took karate for 3 years and is now beginning lacrosse. He isn’t super sports kid and isn’t particularly large or brawny. He’s just like Larry and will eventually be a gorgeous, super masculine man like his dad. Anyhoo, Laurence took a lacrosse clinic this summer and started another program last night. I just want him to have fun and maybe find something new that he likes. I don’t have any illusions that he will be the High School Star or get a scholarship. My motto is aim for happy and average. Everything else is gravy. But sitting in the arena watching him play and helping my daughter finish her homework, I can’t help but overhear other parents talking. It’s as if nothing else exists. They know every team from every town, they’re analyzing every kid on the turf as to his ability (I’m assuming it’s an effort to figure out who might try to steal their kids scholarship) and discussing this with the intensity I’ve rarely heard in a discussion about who will be the next President of the United States. One of my son’s best friends Dad was there and he barely said hello to us. He was soooo intent on watching. It was like his life and breath depended on it. I just find this weird. Then I ran into another mom I know. She begins telling me how her son just started playing last year and they wish they had started him sooner. The ONLY conclusion I can come to is that he is not doing that well. Is there any other? Well, apparently, yes there is. When I say to her, “Oh, I’m sure he’ll catch up”, she quickly cuts me off and says, “Oh, no! He’s one of the better players, that’s why we wish we had started him sooner.” Again, I think this is totally weird. The kid is 10. Are you really giving this kid’s lacrosse career that much thought right now? Does it really matter? I guess it does if you want him to get a scholarship or go pro. Is there another reason? If there is, I’m not aware of it. Now don’t get me wrong – EVERY parent dreams of their child getting a scholarship. Who in their right mind dreams about paying for college? But seriously, let’s jump back onto the page of reality called “life”.
These events lead me to some self examination. Should I be more intense about my son’s sports? Should I place more importance on it? I think academics, maturity and friendship are more important. Do sports have a place? Absolutely. They’re a great tool in maturing, forming relationships, being able to be part of a team, etc. But in my mind, in the end, my son will leave high school, I will pay for college and he will end up sitting behind a desk somewhere providing for his family, to whom he is a wonderful, loving husband and devoted father. So I ask, is it me?
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