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November is here.

Posted in Deep Stuff, Sometimes Life is Annoying on November 3, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

Halloween is gone, so is the candy.  Club closes on Tuesday.  Our “Last Saturday Before the Club Closes Party” is this Saturday night.  Appetizers, desserts, lots of booze, a fire in the fireplace, warm fleeces and good friends.  A really nice evening.  I think I’m going to bring the Frozen Concoction Maker and make Harry Potter Frozen Butterbeer cocktails….mmmmmm.   I think a little bit of Captain Morgan’s couldn’t hurt this recipe either….  Can’t say I’m sorry the Club is closing….I’m sooooo ready.  I need a break.  Boats are still afloat…call to haul the CC has been made.  Miss Gracie will get hauled after Thanksgiving.  And then Frostbiting begins.  This keeps Larry happy.  He needs to be on the water or …..well, it’s just not good.

This weekend is just CRAZY packed with too much stuff:  Tomorrow night is Supermarket Bingo (a Schaefer family favorite).  Saturday morning Larry is off with Joe to get a new “old” Flying Scot for the Club.  We had firewood coming, but alas….that will have to wait yet another weekend now.  Laurence has a soccer game at 11am.  The Club party starts at 5.  No sitter yet…..  Sunday morning we are heading out for brunch with Toni & Chris at 56th Fighter Group.  I have never been there….weird for someone who has lived here her whole life.  Then we’re heading to Bay Shore to the Boulton Center for a Cruising Club presentation done by our friend, Harry Manko.  It’s on the history of the Cruising Club and it should be something wonderful.  Harry is quite talented and NEVER does anything half assed.  He’s full throttle or off.  We have to leave there early because from 4:30 to 7 is our yearly BYC Board Dinner.   After that?  Sleep.  Where are my empty Fall weekends of stacking firewood, lounging by a fire, bike rides, friends for dinner……soon, I suppose and hope.


“Another bitch who thought she’d get the best of me”

Posted in Boat Stuff, Deep Stuff, Fun Stuff, Sometimes Life is Annoying, Stuff about me. with tags on August 31, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

That was one of Larry’s best lines throughout this.  Holy smokes, what a week and weekend.  We worked really, really hard getting ready.  Garage, yard, moving all furniture, rugs, emptying drawers and bottom shelves, cleaning out the fireplace (which was KEY).  We moved the boats into the middle of the canal and tied numerous lines to both sides of the canal.  We hauled the whaler.  We were absolutely prepared and our end result proved this.  The kids and I went to my mothers….that’s another post in itself.  Larry stayed at the house.  The water, when it finally surged, came very, very fast.  It started at our chimney and just kept coming.  I spoke to Larry around 8:30am and he said the playroom was full (one step below the main floor) and we were inches from total flooding.  He said it would definitely happen as he couldn’t believe how fast the water was rising.  Anyhoo, we did flood.  Four inches through the first floor.  Larry told me not to come home until 8ish Sunday night.  He cleaned and cleaned and cleaned and I swear to God, when I walked back in my house I could have cried at how amazing it looked.  If  Larry had told me we didn’t have water, I absolutely would have believed him.  Embarrasingly, the floors and woodwork are cleaner now than when I left!  I LOVE YOU LARRY.  I’ll never ask you for another love letter because the one I got Sunday night was better than anything.  My video subscription has lapsed, so I’m using YouTube now instead.  Take a lookie here.  The photos at the end are of us at Frank & Dick’s Monday night.  We worked our asses off all day Monday and Larry said, “I don’t give a shit.  We’re going out on the boat tonight at 6pm no matter what we haven’t finished.”  I noticed on Facebook that Frank & Dick’s had opened and off we went!


Posted in Deep Stuff, Fun Stuff, Stuff about me. on May 1, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

Wow!  It’s been a loooong time since I have posted.  We had a lovely vacation in Florida – ten days in glorious sunshine.  We were on the beach all day, every day.  It was awesome!!  Probably more has happened than I can remember.  Yesterday, drum roll please, we put the name on the sailboat!!!  It was a cool project.  We’ve had the vinyl lettering in a tube canister for a year.  Last year the boat was put in the water without our knowledge and before we could get the name on.  Anyhoo, it was fun to do!!  I watched a few videos on Youtube and they were extremely helpful.  Of course, we forgot to take a picture yesterday!  Larry will be at the boatyard today and will get a photo which I will promptly post!

Last night my mom called to tell me that my 57 year old sister is getting married for the first time.  She had two ten year relationships with women, has three adopted african american children and met a wonderful man last year.  We love him.  In my eyes, he’s the first person who treats her as she should be treated.  So, wonders never cease.  She’s thrilled and we are too.  Life is funny.

Nutsy’s Korner

Posted in Deep Stuff, Stuff about me. on March 9, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

No, you’re not going to see a Sheenesque video or diatribe here.  I’m not going to talk about “winning!”  Not today anyway!  I could write about Charlie, but I’d be here all day.  Let me just briefly say that he’s the worst example for children, actors, drug addicts, etc.  I feel sorry for anyone who has an addiction, but Hollywood stars make it really hard for me to be sympathetic….  The “I’m a drug addict because I have everything” is just annoying.  Sure addiction happens to anyone, but call me bad, Hollywood stars gone bad don’t get a ton of sympathy from me.

Moving on…Today my beautiful, amazing son is 10 years old!  Time surely does fly.  When I think of the day he was born, it seems time has flown by at 78rpms….  Whenever I do think of the day he was born, I always think of when I was back in my room after the c-section and they brought him to me.  They laid him down next to me and I felt such peace and such connection.  We went to sleep and it was perfect.  I was soooo happy, yet there was a tinge of sadness that I did not experience this connection immediately with my daughter when she was born.  Gracie came into this world in a tornado…I was very sick, had an emergency C, remained pretty sick and just never had the chance to experience that silent, peaceful bliss that I did with Laurence.  Of course, we were always connected – she’s my daughter.  I was just sad we didn’t get to experience that in the hospital and that things were so worrisome and chaotic.  But this, however, make me appreciate her even more at that time and I believe that realization actually did connect me to her more.  Does that make sense?

So, it’s a big year.  Laurence is 10, I will be 50 and we will be married 15 years.  A time to appreciate, reflect and certainly to celebrate!!

Happy birthday Laurence.  I love you to the moon and back.

My love’s birthday!

Posted in Deep Stuff, Fun Stuff, Sometimes Life is Annoying, Stuff about me., Yummy Stuff on February 5, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

Happy Birthday honey!!!

We started the day by bringing coffee, cards and presents (lots of candy – he IS the candy man!) in bed.  This was followed by allowing Dad some time to chill in bed and watch a movie.  Then Dad went and got a haircut.  He came home to Coronation Chicken for lunch – one of his favorites and a surprise!  Now he’s off to see The Green Hornet with Laurence, while Gracie and I make his birthday cakes.  Cakes?  Yes, cakes!  The first is a cake I make from scratch that is just out of this world.  It’s called Celebration Cake.  I got it out of a BHG magazine years ago and have never seen it or been able to find it on the Internet since.  So I am very, very glad I wrote it down in my Recipe Book!  It came with a recipe for Vanilla Buttercream Frosting – sooooo easy and soooo delicious.  Recipes for both below.  But since my darling Larry is not a cake fan, Gracie is making her ice cream cake for him.  Mmmmmmm…..he’ll love that.  She lines a square cake pan with Saran Wrap.  Then she lays Oreo’s to cover the bottom.  They fit perfectly.  On top of this goes vanilla fudge ice cream that has been softened.  The final layer is crushed Oreo’s.  Then you freeze it.  It’s good with whipped cream and/or chocolate sauce. Why two cakes?  I, and my inlaws, like cake.  I also need to practice making a fancy cake for my niece’s bridal shower this summer.  While fondant is just gorgeous, I hate eating it and it pisses me off when it’s on a cake.  Thus, I am covering my cake with buttercream.  It doesn’t need to be fondant-perfect, but it needs to look pretty good and smooth.  Thus the need for practice, practice, practice.  Plus, I just like to make cakes.  It’s FUN!!!  I just put together the three layers of cake and crumb-coated them.  They’re in the fridge firming up.  Photos of finished product to follow!  Here’s the cake and frosting recipes:

Celebration Cake

2 1/2 sticks of softened butter

2 cups of sugar

1 tbsp. vanilla

4 tsps. baking powder

1/2 each baking soda and salt

4 eggs (room temp)

3 1/2 cups flour

1 1/2 cups buttermilk

Mix first five ingredients in a big bowl on medium speed for 3 minutes.  Lower speed and add one egg at a time.  Add in half of the flour and all the buttermilk and mix.  Then add the remaining flour.  Pour into three greased and parchment lined cake pans.  Bake for 30 – 35 minutes in a 350 oven.

Vanilla Buttercream Frosting

4 sticks of softened butter

16 oz. of Marshmallow Fluff

2 cups of confectioners sugar

2 tbsp. vanilla

Mix until fluffy.

We’re headed out to dinner tonight and then will bring the birthday cakes to Larry’s folk’s house for dessert.  His sister is visiting too, so it will be nice.  I must remember candles!!!

In other news, I have had a rough couple of weeks.  I had a health scare that was resolved, my mother is a constant source of stress and aggravation (if I’m being honest), my sister is suffering, my surgery is Tuesday, I have a CCK HIDEA scan next week and I wish that it were different.  I’m STRESSED.  But today is a good day.  Larry is here and healthy.  While it may not always be apparent, I adore you Larry.  Our kids are great and we have a great day in store.  So there is much to be thankful for.  But I’m still having a big, fat cocktail tonight.  Or six.

Snowy Saturday and “Babies”

Posted in Deep Stuff, Fun Stuff with tags , , , , , on January 29, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

It’s just beautiful out.  We recieved a very light dusting of fresh snow on top of the TON of snow already on the ground.  The sun seems to be coming out – finally.  Of course they NWS is predicting another inch of snow tonight and a possible whopper of a storm on Wednesday (could be another foot of snow).  At this rate, the kids will be in school until the 4th of July….  I love winter.  I love snow.  But another foot????  Come on!!  Of course if it turns out to be rain we will have an all out cold, wet mess on our hands.  Lots of rain with two feet of snow on the ground?  Oy.  It is interesting if nothing else.  It reminds me of winters when I was little.  We had a lot of snow then too.  Then it seemed to really die down for a loooooong time.

Larry is off to Frostbiting in the Flying Scots.  There will be five or six boats out today.  What a day they have!!  Cold, crisp, snowy and sunny?  They’ll be in their glory.  Hopefully someone takes some pics.  Maybe I should stop down?  Nah.  I’ll be taking the kids “sledding” this afternoon.  I used quotes because this is the term my children insist I use.  Actually, it is correct.  However, when I was a child, we always called it sleigh riding.  Should be fun no matter what you call it.

The kids and I watched a documentary the other night.  It’s called “Babies” and it was wonderful!  The show follows 4 babies from birth until they begin to walk.  The babies live in San Francisco, Tokyo, Namibia and Mongolia.  It’s absolutely fascinating.  There is no real dialog other than mothers chattering.  There are no questions or answers.  Just wonderful observation.  It’s amazing to watch how differently these children grow up, yet all their learning and emotional milestones are pretty much the same.  There are wonderful moments captured such as one child falling asleep sitting up. His eyes are slowly closing, his head begins to fall back and then?  That instant where he senses he’s falling and quickly wakes up.  The most interesting thing to me was how my children never flinched seeing African women naked and breastfeeding their children but when the (except for a small bottom cloth), but when the white mom in San Francisco was naked in a hot tub with the baby (mind you, they never showed anything at all) my kids gasped and said, “Is she NAKED???”.  I highly recommend this.  It’s interesting, adorable and proves the point that all you need is love.  I’ll end on that note.  Happy weekend.

Video of the Lanterns of Love for Anne

Posted in Deep Stuff, Stuff about me. on January 11, 2011 by Nutsy Fagan

You can really get the idea of how much magic was in the air.  So many people who came together to celebrate a life.  The falling snow, the peaceful night and the beautiful lanterns.  It was amazing.  Take a look: